Work life balance – 5 lessons I learned so far

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This could be interesting! The so called work life balance is something which is very easy to explain to others, but, difficult to implement in your “own” life! Well, that’s true for most of us. When I tried to Google it, I was amazed to see the huge number of suggestions on the WebSphere Needless to say, most of them didn’t work out for my life. Some of them make even disaster in my life. The balance between your work and personal life is something which you should find out on your way. The suggestions which may not suit to someone might well appropriate for you depends on situations and kind of work and vice-versa.

Here are the 5 lessons which I found in my own way, that changed my life into beauty. I hope these steps help you too.

  1. Prepare yourself for your own day

    First is first, your whole day is totally based on how you start it! Prepare your morning mentally as well as physically strong for the whole day activities. I usually sleep at 10 or 10:30 PM and wake up at 5:30 AM. Drink water after you woke up since your body needs it. Do exercise. I go for cycling at morning. You can do some yoga or badminton also. Play some good songs which give you energy and inspirations. Smile at least once in a day (believe me; this makes a huge difference in your day). Be ready for your office with full energy.
    During your office hours you can follow ‘pomodoro technique’ to feel energized and work efficiently.
    Once you come back to your room after office hours, you can engage with what you love the most. It can be played with your dogs or watching something interesting. Call someone you love (mostly your parents/wife if are away) at least once in a day. This makes you happier and give a confident that you have someone who can understand you in a better way.
    Need a pro tip? Install some application such as ‘Fabulous’ and ‘Meditation Music’ to get started with your day.

  2. Make a plan to change the plan

    This might be strange to you. You need to make a plan for the whole day. This plan can be very simple to mention which activity you should do at each time. This is very important if you are working in a corporate office. You should know your timings so that, you can prepare yourself to complete it in a much efficient way. Interestingly, this is your temporary schedule which you make at each morning. The things which you make can change and nothing is permanent. But the advantage of having a pre-planned schedule is that, you will get a better insight of your whole day change, if you change something from your plan. Most of us will not do this and get a surprise and loose timings at last. So, better start it early.

  3. The power of NO!

    Most of us believe that NO is a bad word which we should not use in our life. This is the fundamental wrong thing which I have done in my earlier career life. The result was miserable. I was taking all tasks and responsibility from both my work and life and end up by losing all promises. You should know when and how to say NO. Let us take an example, consider my boss telling me at morning 9AM that, I have to release software suit to the customer by 2PM. I should say YES here. While I was preparing the release, my boss come after 1 hour and again telling me that, I have to prepare a document for internal review which going to happen at 4PM. He also advises me to start with the first document and then go to the release. Now should I say YES/NO to his advice? Well, I know that the document work will take at least 1 hour and it is going to be reviewed at 4PM only. I should say an indirect NO to his advice by saying that both I can manage and finish on time. A ‘NO’ is well suited here than a ‘YES’.

  4. E-mails – When should I check it?

    This could be funny to you, but in reality, most of us using the E-mail as a chat application now.
    The original e-mail was developed to send important messages and not expect to be at real time scenarios. Usual e-mail responses get within half a day or in a day. That means you don’t have to always check and respond to e-mails when they arrived in your inbox.
    I usually check my inbox 3 times a day. I open my e-mail at morning when I switch on my computer, after lunch and then at evening. I also make sure to tag each mails based on their relevance and make a TODO tag for some urgent mails. This way, I can order the mails and reply to the mails which are important to me.

  5. Priority…Priority and Priority

    This one is not a step, but a suggestion. You can’t balance your work and life until you priorities your daily activities. I used to check my Facebook, photo sharing sites and chat applications. But I do maintain a specific time for doing all these activities. We can enjoy our life when we start finding time for all our most important things. Work life balance is something which tells you what you should do at a specific time so that you can enjoy your whole day.

Do you have any specific tip to add to the list? I would love to hear that…

My Best Friend’s marriage: A virtual good bye to our Best Friendship!

Made for each other

Life can be crazy sometimes. It gives you mixture of feelings together and shows how difficult to take a decision on a particular time.

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”
Allen Saunders

Well, I know the real meaning of the above quote. Sometimes I feel that the above quote is written only by seeing into my life 😛

My best friend’s marriage! The dream come true moment for all of our gang to show off that we are her best 🙂 . We are drastically different, unique six members…One gang, 3 guys and 3 girls, different attitude and personalities…but still we were always together. I really don’t know how we form a gang, but it happened! Just like that :O

All we know is to tease each other, whatever the case is being. Out of 5, one girl is my neighbour as well as  best friend…she is the one who knows all my secret, hence, I always supported her while others tease her (else it will affect me badly you know 😉 ). We met rarely, but, each time we will make sure that, all meetings will be unique – sometimes because of the things which we eat or sometimes because of the things which we said 😛

And the day came with the most unique thing in our gang discussion. My best buddy is going to get married! Wow! That is  going to be really awesome since that’s the first marriage, which is going to happen in our gang! Then all the discussion was about how we can show off in her marriage 😛 we knew that, many beautiful girls will be attending the marriage since she studied in girls “only” school 😀 . So it was our prestige moment (our means, we 3 poor boys 😀 ) and we will not miss it in any case.

Though we all had thought too much to prepare, it came all of a sudden. But, it was one of the best marriages that I have seen in my life 😉 . The happy moments…delicious food and awesome sweating photo posing. It was too good until I realized something…something which I never thought of…

Since we 6 are in different places now, we use to take important decisions through “Watsapp”. After that marriage, I have noticed something…Now all  the 6 are not active  in “Watsapp group chat”, its just 5 members who are taking the meeting place decision etc. One is always missing and is none other than my best buddy. We 5 always miss her after that more than the usual missing. She will come sometime in the virtual world, and then vanish all of a sudden. No messages…No missed calls…No Facebook…and nothing.

During a chat among we 5, I had put this matter forward. Then one of my friends told that it’s an usual case! After marriage, ladies will not keep relationship with their friends, especially if the friend  belongs to a so called category “gentleman”. This is a general “must” have approached in South India, especially in Kerala (aka Gods Own Country!).

 

Wow! That was an embarrassing moment for me! We, the people of Kerala keep our friendship only up-to the  marriage time! After that, communication or even smiling will not be there.

I asked the same to my Mom on the same day night. My Mom told me a wonderful reason! Mom told me that “After marriage, ladies should not talk to men, even if they were close friends because, it will lead to doubt on her by the husband’s family or even by her husband. The communications usually stop due to this belief and it continues in each and every marriage”.

The next immediate question from my side was “what about the husband? Whether he can continue the friendship?” Mom said “Yes. He can. But there also will be a limit”.

I really don’t know how many of us support this statement, but frankly, I cannot support it completely. I agree that after marriage, there will be a control in the friendship, even if it was a best friendship. I also agree that, after marriage, people cannot meet/chat as like how they were in college/school. But how can one say we should not communicate at all after the marriage?

In my personal experience, I usually discuss my sadness/frustration with my friends rather than my parents. Parents are parents and my parents are the best that I deserve. But we should not make them feel sad by telling the job related frustrations or the living conditions. They should be happy and we should contribute towards their happiness. So in my life, both parents and friends have their equal stands. Even if  one friend is  lost from my circle, it will badly affect me. So, you can think of how I felt when my best friend stopped the communication.

Think about a lady who tells happy moments of her parents and sadness/frustration with her friends. To whom will she tell her feelings, after marriage? Of course, not to her husband at the initial time, maybe later that can happen. I’m also going to marry someone soon or later. I always wish to have a very good friendship with her (that someone’s) friends. Just imagine how nice it will be to joining two friend circles together and cherish the moments 🙂 But, in present I don’t know why people are not thinking something like this…May be I can bring a change in my life, but how many will be able to change this mentality altogether? Only me?

The people who created this mentality never knew how it will affect a friendship. Almost all time friendship is the one which vanishes in front of other relationships. But, I felt really bad when this happened to me. Many men do care a lot about their friends. I personally do not differentiate friends based on gender discrimination. All are my friends and I care all in the same way 🙂 . So just imagine when you realize this care is just for up-to the marriage time and they just need a bodyguard as from their side 😦 . But,of course, my best friend may not be thinking in the same way, but she has to walk through the same mentality of the common society rules…may be in a forced way.

At 24, I know that there are many more similar situations  on my way…but the only question is who will still continue this as a “common” practice and will  support the same  as it is?

The Day I Become a Sponsor!

This is not a story of a millionaire who decided to give all his money to charity. This story neither tells you about a great man who fights for freedom and society too. Today, I just want to share a small incident which makes a miser to become a charity sponsor!

“Kanjoos”(miser in English). My friends and colleagues ‘honorably’ call me with this name! Sometimes I felt that they forget my original name itself 😉 Well, that’s me. A person who will not do any celebrations (celebrations needs a lot of money you know: P ) but surely ask treat from everyone. Usually I’m walking with less money so I can easily say that, “Oh sorry dear, I haven’t enough bucks, shall we go tomorrow?” (You know that tomorrow never come, right? 😉 ). I was happy with that life, but then everything suddenly changed!

One fine day, as usual, I took sick leave and was empowered my memory power (aka sleeping tightly 😛 ) in my room. Suddenly, I got interrupted by a door knock. The door knock continues with the amount of sound. With all anger, I jumped from my bed and open the door harshly. I thought to shout as loud to the person who knocked, but, a foul smile came on my face. The reason for that is very simple; it was a beautiful girl who knocked my door!

Sarita. That’s her name. She starts the introduction about her and why she came. She came as part of a charity foundation that focuses on the poor children. In between, the conversation, without knowing that she came to a men’s PG, she asked whether she can come inside my room for better explanation about the foundation! With a mixture of emotions I sadly said NO with reason. It eventually made a good understand between us. She said about her life and even I said about me too. I was happy to know that she took a volunteer-ship even in her busy professional life. Yes, she is an engineer just like me, but one difference. She works hard for that foundation on her holidays whereas I’m tightly sleeping on my holidays 🙂

After the beautiful conversation, the sad part came into picture, Donation! Oh come on, who sent this girl to me? That too for a donation from my side!!! I started my usual statements such as bankruptcy state of mine, etc. But she was more experienced to handle people like me. When I said that “I don’t have money now”, she said I can give as check leaf! When I said bank account hasn’t money, she said she can give 3 weeks to put money in! I really felt I started hating beautiful girls at that time 😉 But somehow I didn’t say NO to her!

Well, we made a special deal. She gave me 3 weeks of time and I gave her check leaf with one condition. I should give her money only when I satisfied with the foundation activities 🙂 pretty good deal right? She smiled and said that, “people like you giving more value for money when it’s come to “sharing”. Ajith, just imagine, suppose you born in a very poor background or was orphan, do you think you will achieve what all you have now? As a professional, I know how much you get and spending. I do share the money which I’m earning. It’s given me a different pleasure in my life. Believe it or not, sharing the money with poor people is far better than just dropping it in the temple for your personal need!”

That’s sounds something different. In fact, I do believe and support some of the statements which she brushes up in my mind. But deal is deal know 😉 she also said that the foundation is very near to me, and I can go and see everything directly. I gave the check and she starts filling the donation form. She asked and put my father’s name in the prayer list column and said with a cute smile that “God always like children. Their prayers have more value than us in front of him 😉 “I really got that, she indirectly points out me 😉 but I liked that. We gave end to our long conversation with a “thank you” and “good bye”. After she faded from my eyesight, I noticed that she wrote her phone number in the backside of the form with a small note “I will pick up the call only on weekends. My father doesn’t know that I’m a volunteer. As a girl, it’s difficult to become and I know my father won’t allow…”

I came back to my bed for completing my sleep, but I haven’t slept. I was reflexively starting to think about what she said. I did a couple of Google search and found that, the foundation doing something really good. Next week, I went to the nearby foundation village. They heartily welcome me when I said Sarita’s name 😉 I started watching the surroundings. Children, their stepmother, their village, their relationships…it was awesome. I felt too close to that atmosphere. I said thank you to the people over there and started leaving from there. While going, a small girl gifted me a doll which made up of sweet wrapper! It somehow touched my heart. I realized money is not the only thing which sustain in this world…

On that day, evening, I called Sarita. She didn’t pick up the call. I sent her a message regarding the visit and all. I also told her that she can take the money even tomorrow itself!!! Around night I got a reply that “Thank you Ajith, I knew you would do it. Keep this good heart for future 😉 . Good night”. Then no calls or messages came after that 🙂

After a couple of days, I got confirmation that the money transferred. Yep, I become a Sponsor!!! I got a thank you letter from the foundation after that. Trust me; it was the second time I got excited after receiving my job offer letter! Now I’m sponsoring to a boy, Prakash, studying in 10th class. Moreover, I am sharing my money to poor people I met while in my daily walk. Its quiet different feeling when they smiled and blessed you…

All credits go to Sarita, An angel came from somewhere and made me a human… This is for you Sarita…

I too witness to an accident!

‘Accident’

This word is not unfamiliar to most of us.  Even though media exposing each and every accident at its best, most people usually avoid paying attention to that. This may be due to the so called ‘busy life’ or may due to the fact that “It’s not either happened to them or known people”. Well, I can agree to either of these facts because even I belonged to the same category, until I witness to an accident!

It was a quiet common day for me. As usual, I woke up at late and started my ‘hurry bury’ preparations to go to the office. I used to walk to my office because it’s very near to my room. There are many other reasons for my every day walk too. First of all, I can see the heavy traffic on the road and make myself proud to feel that, I don’t have even a single vehicle! Second, I can see the beautiful girls nearby, only when I walk 😉 and third, yeah…It’s good for my health too 🙂

On that day, my walking was a bit faster because I was later than usual late time! But, on the way I managed to keep all my ‘reasons’ that mentioned above. During that watching, I noticed a biker (a motorcyclist) who came to my side from the opposite side. It was a usual ride. Suddenly the biker loses his control! He got frightened and his bike skidded…Yes, I realized that, the bike is coming towards the footpath on which I’m standing. But I didn’t understand why suddenly it happened, that too from a normal speed!  I about to think the reason, but meanwhile my mind got interrupted with a very rude sound from my backside. I suddenly turned back and realized that, the rude sound came from a Tata safari (SUV vehicle). It doesn’t take even a single second; the safari hit the biker very harshly, very next to me and stopped its giant roaring…All this happened within a fraction of time…

I literally got shocked! I saw only the very big grid front side of the Safari and half portion of the bike (another half was under the Safari). My heart, knocking me to help the biker, but my mind didn’t listen to it. I tried to go towards him, but my legs haven’t moved but shivered. I even faced difficult to breathe properly…

As like any other accident, people suddenly crowded. All their variant voices make me come back to the reality. But even at that time, I was unable to move myself. All people immediately started telling different stories about that accident. Some people favored to the biker whereas other opposed and told that, it’s happened due to the ‘crazy high speed’. Only a few people immediately called an ambulance and luckily, the ambulance came very quickly. They took the person immediately to the ambulance. His helmet was broken and blood flooded under the Safari.  The ambulance faded from my eyesight with an unusual siren.

The Safari was on the wrong side and the biker was with normal speed. All knows only this information. The Safari driver came out from the vehicle with shivering hand. People start scolding him, but I didn’t hear what the driver said about the accident. After a couple of minutes people started dispersed from my view. I slowly started walking to my office…

I reached my office, but my mind was still in that accident place. I literally do nothing on that day in my office. During the lunch break, I came out from the office and went to the next bakery. I was curious to know what happened to the biker. Before I ordered something, I asked to the bakery person about the accident. I did not know that, the bakery person about to give me another shock…

“The Tata Safari was on the other side of the road. Instead of giving break, the Safari driver accidentally puts on the accelerator! It starts roaring and moves heavily. All he is trying to avoid hitting on the front vehicles, so he took the direction towards the right. The Safari crosses the divider and jumped to the other side of the road. This all happened in front of the biker and biker got frightened. He was unable to control his bike and he too shifts his bike to his left side (means both vehicles came towards the same direction where I’m standing!). The Safari hit the biker and smashed him within the edge of the footpath and stopped. The biker dead on the spot!!! ”

The shop keeper continued his speech, but I listen only this much. I got shocked again! I didn’t order anything but directly came back to the office. I realized that I witness not only for an accident, but also for a spot dead…

One thing I’m sure…suppose the Safari not hit on the bike, then surely it will hit me. And of course, instead of the biker, all people start talking about a pedestrian! But, on that day, God decided to take his life (may be through a siren to me…) in fact, only his life…  Should I happy for that? Should I thank to God for giving me my precious life? But then what about the biker? He was a young man like me with obvious dreams…he is a common man who has all the rights to live in this world like me…but still…Should I curse the Safari driver? By the way, what he did? All he did to save the vehicle and avoid the collision with the front side vehicles…Well; still I don’t have any specific answers to these mind quests.

Even after a couple of weeks, Still I reflexively turn back and look for a vehicle when I reached in that place…you can call it with any known names, but, I’m the only one, who knows eventually how it was…

 

My first love: a lesson or a blessing?

We met for a reason; either you’re a blessing or a lesson.

loveSome people come to our life very silently. We may not notice their part, until they become disappear from our lives. The same happened with my first lover too. Well, be frank, I still don’t know whether I can call it as a love story. It’s neither a tragedy story, nor have any happy ending! But one thing I know, She is the only one who comes to my mind when I about to think LOVE.

I met her when I was studying at my PUC. Like any other love story, we started with a whole day fight 😉 I hated her so much and my mission of PUC was to threaten her by words! But always, it’s become kind of “mission impossible 5”, because I was not knowing even her mission was almost same (actually bigger) towards me 😉 It went like world war throughout my first year (Be frank, I was attending PUC first year only for this and I got 98% attendance!).

So called vacation time came after that! Everyone is in enjoyment during those times and no exception for me 😉 But somehow I realized that, I’m missing ‘something’…couldn’t able to figure out what it is! A couple of days later, I realized that ‘something’ was a stupid girl I really want to fight with! I took the phone and called to her land phone number (don’t ask me how I got her number; it’s all part of the war 😉 ). Her mom picked up first. After a long time identification-come-interview process, mom hand over to her. Before I started to speak something, she started the war and last she told that even she was missing ‘something’ and found what it is during my call! I liked that statement, even we were at war 😉

We met after the vacation, but not ended up the phone calls! We stopped fighting after realized that, there is no point in that 🙂 We become friends followed by best buddies! We found time for sharing our thoughts and feelings after that, instead of simply stupid fought…

She started taking care me more after that, and of course me too 😉 But I did not know that, these all lead me to thinking a strange feeling. Yes, I realized I’m in love with her! Just like that. But I don’t know why I loved her!  I was so happy and all my worries become vanish when I talked to her. The whole second year of my PUC finished just like a month and sadly I came to know that on my farewell party 😦

The really sad part was I couldn’t even imagine that, I’m going to miss my friends and even her! I was totally confused. I was the only one person who knows I loved her! I wished to tell her that I sincerely love her but how? Nothing came to my mind, even a good dialogue from an English movie 😦 .

When our farewell party finished, she came to me. She about to say something to me, but I interrupted her talk and said “I love you”! Just like that. One simple word! But still, I couldn’t figure out how I said that to her, even now! She didn’t say anything at that time, except ‘see you tomorrow’. She slowly walks and fades from my eyesight. I thought to call her back and ask again, but I didn’t do that.

I came to my home. I was totally upset, but thankfully, my parents and brother didn’t ask anything. They knew farewell, gave me that upset, but, they did not know the one more reason behind that upset. I didn’t sleep well on that night, but somehow I woke up the next morning early and reached in my college very early. Sadly, she was absent on that day.

Without any surprises, I came to my home early and directly picked up the phone. I called her and on third attempt she picked up the call. The so called eager and tension made my voice harsh and dry. I started my genuine reasons and explanations. After all, I asked the main part, ‘Do you love me?’ After a couple of minute’s silence, she started from the other end. She literally murmured that “It’s not all about whether I or you loving, but it’s all about the fact that we can’t be together forever. We love our parents very much and we should realize that we are different. I need your friendship even after we left our college, but, your love is not even an option for me. Please understand that…” I didn’t get what she tried to explained, but I understood that, the answer is NO. Yes…my first love failed very nicely! I didn’t continue that conversation after that and even after…I thought that’s the end…without knowing it’s just the start to a bigger story…

We literally separated. No phone calls, no meeting and even after the PUC, I did not know where she joined too. I joined in my engineering after getting an adjustable mark in PUC. I slowly started to forget her…I knew it’s not that much easier, but I tried hard for that. I keep concentrating on my studies and wished I didn’t want to make the same mistakes of PUC life. Two years went very slowly…after two years, I got a call during exam vacation. Without giving any clue, I came to know it was her. I thought to shout very badly and shut the call, but I didn’t (or I couldn’t). It was just a casual call, but, after that somehow, we again start speaking. It continued even after my engineering life! During that time, she always told me about one of her senior guys. After a couple of calls I realized that she started loving that guy…Wow! She is in love, but not with me! I was happy to know that. She got a better person, of course. But I realized that when I about to asked about him, she changed the topic and comes to my life or our thoughts.

I was always curious to know that, why she called me again after that break up. But I was not ready to lose her again by just asking that. But it happened! One fine day, after I got the job, during the casual talk, I directly asked her that. She tried to change the topic, but I wanted to know that. After a couple of quests, she told me that “I loved you even before you saying to me. Since I knew it will not happen, I myself keep you away from that. I thought I was good in that, but again fall in love with him (other guy) somehow. I really don’t know what happened to me but, one thing I realized that, I can’t just avoid you, even him…” I didn’t respond to that long conversion for a while. Should I happy to know that she loved me? Should I bother that she loves him? And the big question what was next?

I finished up the call by usual good night and sweet dreams wishes. But I realized that, I was not happy even after she agreed that she loving me, though I wished to hear that long back! I also realized that I changed a lot after the PUC at that time! It’s not a love story anymore, but the confusion to whom she has to select. Well, this time I took the decision. It’s always better when they joined together (yes, I’m out again).   They are from the same profession, he is much better than me and moreover, I already passed the course of”feeling after the love failed”.

So only one doubt remains…how to stop this? Well, I can’t tell all these to her and of course she won’t stop even after. I found a solution to that too. I sent a long message to her number. She called me immediately, but I didn’t pick up the call. The conversion continued through several messages. All I said is that “stopping this conversation as well ‘friendship’. I want to change and if you continue to disturb me, I can’t do anything. So I’m stopping everything here, everything means everything…” As expected, I got many questions from her side. Some of them are very difficult to answer as compared to a job interview! I realized that she started hating me during these messages, but, I was happy to know that. I managed to keep standing in my words and after all, its end. The real end of an epic love!

After that, till now, I didn’t get any messages or missed calls from her…

It was not a tragedy story because no one loses any big things. It’s not even a happy story too, because no one is too much happy after all. This is a true story which tells the real life. It’s all about my first love! Well, in fact, this is the only one love till now. I don’t know whether my love gave me a good lesson or blessing. But I realized it’s not only happened to me, but to others too, even more or less away.

Are you one among them? Then Mark Your Presence…

What happen if my Smartphone switched off for ‘just’ 10 minutes?

Yes. What you thought is absolutely right! I’m neither a Doctor nor a famous person. So, usually nothing will happen, if my phone switched off. Even I thought the same, a couple of months back. But, sometimes, believes change without giving any sign. Here we go to the reason…

One fine day, after the successful release of my project, I came back to my room at 10 p.m. I was so happy because of two reasons. Number one, of course, I completed the project within the date. Second one, in fact most important to me, I’m going to meet my friend after one and half year! Just imagine how happy I was. She called me around 9 PM and I was on the call up to 9.45 PM. During the call, my smart phone smartly warned me that it’s going to die soon (I mean battery low 😉 ). After the call, I pack up everything and it will take just 10 minutes to reach to my room.

When I came to my room, my cousin’s friend (of course mine too 😉 ) was waiting for me. He very harshly cut my happiness and asked “Where the hell your cell phone @#&%! “?  I searched in my pocket and I found it’s safe in my pocket. I was not able to understand what happened within the 10 minutes of time!!!  He said many things while I was thinking, literally, but I got only one sentence…”See your phone and understand what happened, stupid”. Before I pick up and see what exactly happened, friend pick up his phone and called my cousin. He just said that “Ajith is here…” and hand over to me. My cousin starts second round of scolding…damn, come on…what happened to these people? :O

After successful completion of the second round scolding, cousin straight away come to the point. My parents called me so many times and I haven’t picked up the phone. They just “scared”, so they called my cousin because he is near to my place. After the unofficial bye bye and good night, I suddenly came to my room and picked up the phone. Damn…its switched off!

I kept it for charging and switched on to call my parents…huh??? 17 missed calls and 5 messages! Out of 17 missed calls, 14 from my parents (messages were keeping on coming…)! I suddenly called my father. It’s not complete even the very first ring. Before that my father took it and said ‘hello’. I expected the third round of scolding, but surprisingly he didn’t scolds me! He told me that, “I will give the phone to mom, and will speak at last”. Mom picked up the phone and I said ‘hello’. I didn’t get any reply from the other side except a long cry 😦 . But, be frank, even at that time also I was not able to understand what happened!

After a long conversation, I understood that, all this happened just from my mom’s imaginary thought! Some bad things happened in my place couple of days back and the so called media exposed it very well. My dad called me and not got picked up at even 10 PM, my mom starts interconnect those incidents and build up her own Oscar winning ready thoughts. She literally starts crying and dad had no option other than calling my cousin. Mom called almost everyone!

I scolded my mom on that day for these stupid thoughts. She didn’t react, but said one thing, “You will realize it when you have a child”. Though it was an ‘out of control’ moment for me, I thankful to my mom just because of one thing, almost all my relatives called me on that day, because, they were very curious to know what happened to me 😉

I said sorry to my mom very next day and then again after we become buddies 😉  This incident happened a couple of months back, and after that, I went for a marriage function of special one. During the lunch time, one old uncle called me with a beautiful smile. I went near to him. He starts speaking in a very polite manner. At last he said that, “Son, always keep something which is worth, but should give the other things which you are not using, say example, your Smartphone…”

Huh? Mom…Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr :@

The so called “Transition Life! “

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” ― John Lennon

ImageChildhood life is the best and ever enjoyed life…Well, I know there will not be any contradiction to the above statement. But, my question is why we not become the same once we moved from childhood?

I strongly believe there are some reasons why we changing dramatically in our “transition life” . Of course, at this 23rd, I can express why I changed a lot…

I concern about the society very well now…I concern about the friendship now…I concern about the family which I belongs to also…and I’m concern about myself even more! Even I’m not sure whether I’m concern anything else too, but one thing I remember is that, I was not concern anything which I mentioned above in my childhood!!! Is it mean that all these concerns make me to change? The answer is not a simple yes/no!

When I start concerned more about the society, society starts “fake” concern towards my parents and eventually, parents starts concerns about me more…Before I said to my parents that I wish to join in engineering, society told my parents that I will become a good Doctor!

Now, I’m not enjoying but “maintaining” many friendship through SMS, Watsapp and Facebook! I wish I could go and meet everyone but, society tells to concentrate in my job, and of course my parents believe the society and thinking that I will get everything from the job itself!

Society taught me that, I should give prime important to me and only to me! When some one said a lie, I should oppose and betrayed him/her. But when I said a lie, I should believe that, all I said is for my fortune life! Society also taught me that, when I felt sympathy, love and affection, I should understand that there is nothing like that in this so beautiful Earth! All I want to learn is the “self control” and how to lead a better “self life”.

Well, you might be thinking that, I know everything but still why I’m not changing and go back to my childhood like enjoying life!!! I believe I can go back but only after finding the answer for the last question….

Who is this Society???

MYP…