Work life balance – 5 lessons I learned so far


This could be interesting! The so called work life balance is something which is very easy to explain to others, but, difficult to implement in your “own” life! Well, that’s true for most of us. When I tried to Google it, I was amazed to see the huge number of suggestions on the WebSphere Needless to say, most of them didn’t work out for my life. Some of them make even disaster in my life. The balance between your work and personal life is something which you should find out on your way. The suggestions which may not suit to someone might well appropriate for you depends on situations and kind of work and vice-versa.

Here are the 5 lessons which I found in my own way, that changed my life into beauty. I hope these steps help you too.

  1. Prepare yourself for your own day

    First is first, your whole day is totally based on how you start it! Prepare your morning mentally as well as physically strong for the whole day activities. I usually sleep at 10 or 10:30 PM and wake up at 5:30 AM. Drink water after you woke up since your body needs it. Do exercise. I go for cycling at morning. You can do some yoga or badminton also. Play some good songs which give you energy and inspirations. Smile at least once in a day (believe me; this makes a huge difference in your day). Be ready for your office with full energy.
    During your office hours you can follow ‘pomodoro technique’ to feel energized and work efficiently.
    Once you come back to your room after office hours, you can engage with what you love the most. It can be played with your dogs or watching something interesting. Call someone you love (mostly your parents/wife if are away) at least once in a day. This makes you happier and give a confident that you have someone who can understand you in a better way.
    Need a pro tip? Install some application such as ‘Fabulous’ and ‘Meditation Music’ to get started with your day.

  2. Make a plan to change the plan

    This might be strange to you. You need to make a plan for the whole day. This plan can be very simple to mention which activity you should do at each time. This is very important if you are working in a corporate office. You should know your timings so that, you can prepare yourself to complete it in a much efficient way. Interestingly, this is your temporary schedule which you make at each morning. The things which you make can change and nothing is permanent. But the advantage of having a pre-planned schedule is that, you will get a better insight of your whole day change, if you change something from your plan. Most of us will not do this and get a surprise and loose timings at last. So, better start it early.

  3. The power of NO!

    Most of us believe that NO is a bad word which we should not use in our life. This is the fundamental wrong thing which I have done in my earlier career life. The result was miserable. I was taking all tasks and responsibility from both my work and life and end up by losing all promises. You should know when and how to say NO. Let us take an example, consider my boss telling me at morning 9AM that, I have to release software suit to the customer by 2PM. I should say YES here. While I was preparing the release, my boss come after 1 hour and again telling me that, I have to prepare a document for internal review which going to happen at 4PM. He also advises me to start with the first document and then go to the release. Now should I say YES/NO to his advice? Well, I know that the document work will take at least 1 hour and it is going to be reviewed at 4PM only. I should say an indirect NO to his advice by saying that both I can manage and finish on time. A ‘NO’ is well suited here than a ‘YES’.

  4. E-mails – When should I check it?

    This could be funny to you, but in reality, most of us using the E-mail as a chat application now.
    The original e-mail was developed to send important messages and not expect to be at real time scenarios. Usual e-mail responses get within half a day or in a day. That means you don’t have to always check and respond to e-mails when they arrived in your inbox.
    I usually check my inbox 3 times a day. I open my e-mail at morning when I switch on my computer, after lunch and then at evening. I also make sure to tag each mails based on their relevance and make a TODO tag for some urgent mails. This way, I can order the mails and reply to the mails which are important to me.

  5. Priority…Priority and Priority

    This one is not a step, but a suggestion. You can’t balance your work and life until you priorities your daily activities. I used to check my Facebook, photo sharing sites and chat applications. But I do maintain a specific time for doing all these activities. We can enjoy our life when we start finding time for all our most important things. Work life balance is something which tells you what you should do at a specific time so that you can enjoy your whole day.

Do you have any specific tip to add to the list? I would love to hear that…


The Day I Become a Sponsor!

This is not a story of a millionaire who decided to give all his money to charity. This story neither tells you about a great man who fights for freedom and society too. Today, I just want to share a small incident which makes a miser to become a charity sponsor!

“Kanjoos”(miser in English). My friends and colleagues ‘honorably’ call me with this name! Sometimes I felt that they forget my original name itself 😉 Well, that’s me. A person who will not do any celebrations (celebrations needs a lot of money you know: P ) but surely ask treat from everyone. Usually I’m walking with less money so I can easily say that, “Oh sorry dear, I haven’t enough bucks, shall we go tomorrow?” (You know that tomorrow never come, right? 😉 ). I was happy with that life, but then everything suddenly changed!

One fine day, as usual, I took sick leave and was empowered my memory power (aka sleeping tightly 😛 ) in my room. Suddenly, I got interrupted by a door knock. The door knock continues with the amount of sound. With all anger, I jumped from my bed and open the door harshly. I thought to shout as loud to the person who knocked, but, a foul smile came on my face. The reason for that is very simple; it was a beautiful girl who knocked my door!

Sarita. That’s her name. She starts the introduction about her and why she came. She came as part of a charity foundation that focuses on the poor children. In between, the conversation, without knowing that she came to a men’s PG, she asked whether she can come inside my room for better explanation about the foundation! With a mixture of emotions I sadly said NO with reason. It eventually made a good understand between us. She said about her life and even I said about me too. I was happy to know that she took a volunteer-ship even in her busy professional life. Yes, she is an engineer just like me, but one difference. She works hard for that foundation on her holidays whereas I’m tightly sleeping on my holidays 🙂

After the beautiful conversation, the sad part came into picture, Donation! Oh come on, who sent this girl to me? That too for a donation from my side!!! I started my usual statements such as bankruptcy state of mine, etc. But she was more experienced to handle people like me. When I said that “I don’t have money now”, she said I can give as check leaf! When I said bank account hasn’t money, she said she can give 3 weeks to put money in! I really felt I started hating beautiful girls at that time 😉 But somehow I didn’t say NO to her!

Well, we made a special deal. She gave me 3 weeks of time and I gave her check leaf with one condition. I should give her money only when I satisfied with the foundation activities 🙂 pretty good deal right? She smiled and said that, “people like you giving more value for money when it’s come to “sharing”. Ajith, just imagine, suppose you born in a very poor background or was orphan, do you think you will achieve what all you have now? As a professional, I know how much you get and spending. I do share the money which I’m earning. It’s given me a different pleasure in my life. Believe it or not, sharing the money with poor people is far better than just dropping it in the temple for your personal need!”

That’s sounds something different. In fact, I do believe and support some of the statements which she brushes up in my mind. But deal is deal know 😉 she also said that the foundation is very near to me, and I can go and see everything directly. I gave the check and she starts filling the donation form. She asked and put my father’s name in the prayer list column and said with a cute smile that “God always like children. Their prayers have more value than us in front of him 😉 “I really got that, she indirectly points out me 😉 but I liked that. We gave end to our long conversation with a “thank you” and “good bye”. After she faded from my eyesight, I noticed that she wrote her phone number in the backside of the form with a small note “I will pick up the call only on weekends. My father doesn’t know that I’m a volunteer. As a girl, it’s difficult to become and I know my father won’t allow…”

I came back to my bed for completing my sleep, but I haven’t slept. I was reflexively starting to think about what she said. I did a couple of Google search and found that, the foundation doing something really good. Next week, I went to the nearby foundation village. They heartily welcome me when I said Sarita’s name 😉 I started watching the surroundings. Children, their stepmother, their village, their relationships…it was awesome. I felt too close to that atmosphere. I said thank you to the people over there and started leaving from there. While going, a small girl gifted me a doll which made up of sweet wrapper! It somehow touched my heart. I realized money is not the only thing which sustain in this world…

On that day, evening, I called Sarita. She didn’t pick up the call. I sent her a message regarding the visit and all. I also told her that she can take the money even tomorrow itself!!! Around night I got a reply that “Thank you Ajith, I knew you would do it. Keep this good heart for future 😉 . Good night”. Then no calls or messages came after that 🙂

After a couple of days, I got confirmation that the money transferred. Yep, I become a Sponsor!!! I got a thank you letter from the foundation after that. Trust me; it was the second time I got excited after receiving my job offer letter! Now I’m sponsoring to a boy, Prakash, studying in 10th class. Moreover, I am sharing my money to poor people I met while in my daily walk. Its quiet different feeling when they smiled and blessed you…

All credits go to Sarita, An angel came from somewhere and made me a human… This is for you Sarita…